You Can Do It!
Yesterday, I learned a very valuable lesson from my 4-year old son, Ethan. We were playing a puzzle game called “Thinker Blocks.” (This is a special childhood toy of mine which I’m passing on to Ethan. Hehe.) Ethan was asking me to form the different shapes. I taught him that the 2D is easier than the 3D. And so he asked me to form some 2D shapes first.
You Can Do It!
After some time, he requested that I make the 3D figure (as pointed to by the arrow in the picture above). I told him that is a difficult one. And in fact, I have tried it since my childhood days and never managed to make it. So I said to Ethan, “Hindi ko kaya yan.” (I can’t do that.) Then he said, “Kaya mo yan!” (You can do it!) I told him no I can’t do it and that it’s difficult. He insisted that I can do it. We playfully exchanged a couple of “No, I can’t do it.” and “Yes, you can do it!” statements again. Finally, I said, “Ok. I will try it.”
And so off I went, putting my mind into it and giving it my best shot. Lo and behold, after about 15-20 minutes, voila! I really did it! Honestly, I was surprised that I was able to do it. (See pic to the right)
But that put me into thinking. We really can do it! We can have a God-honoring and fulfilling marriage! By God’s grace, we can have a maximized marriage! You can do it, with God’s strength and empowerment!
We’ve Been Deceived
You see, many of us may have been deceived that we’re doomed to be in a miserable marriage. The married life is parodied as a life of heartaches and pains. You yourself may actually be in a marriage where it seems that you’re locked on a downward spiral.
In the last post, I encouraged you to be hopeful. Indeed, there is hope because of God and because of people who care for you & your marriage. In this post, I’m here to say that, “You can do it!” You can get out of the downward spiral. It may not be easy but it is possible (of course with the help of God).
4 Possible Stages
Here are 4 possible stages of where you are at in terms of having a maximized marriage:
1) Perhaps you’re not thinking about your marriage. Well, it’s time to think about your relationship with your spouse and how you can contribute to make it richer.
2) Maybe thinking about your marriage brings you painful memories and feelings. And you have decided in the past that you won’t put any effort into making it work anymore. Now, it’s time to make the decision that you’ll give it your best shot in loving your partner regardless of what has happened in the past.
3) You may have already made the decision to work on your marriage but don’t know how to proceed. You need to learn some practical tips and concrete action points. Stay in touch with the MaximizingMarriage.com weekly blog, fan page, or find other godly marriage resources online.
4) Finally, many of us already know what we ought to do. But we just aren’t doing it. Pray hard, ask for God’s strength, and then just do it!
You Can Do It!
Remember, you can do it! If you still think you can’t, go ahead and send me a private message. Tell me all the reasons why you think you can’t build your marriage. And I’ll be here to tell you like my son told me, “You can do it!”